How Men Can Make It Through a Springfield Divorce
There are differences between how men and women handle divorce. Because most men find out that their divorce is controlling them – their time, finances and children – they often seek a divorce lawyer who champions fathers' rights and the divorce law firm that promises to help them make it through divorce without going broke.
Have You Found Legal Representation?
The first thing you should do is find a divorce attorney, somebody you can relate to, trust and feel comfortable with. Hire one who is aggressive – you'll have it in your back pocket when you unexpectedly need it.
The Massachusetts Family Law Group is a hard-working team of Western Massachusetts divorce and family law attorneys. Instead of being dependent on a single attorney, you get an entire team backed by our statewide network of carefully recruited attorneys and experts working together to watch your back, stand up to your spouse, and prevail in the courtroom.
Financial Strategies for Men
One of the great myths about men is that it is cheaper to live single than as a couple. Wrong. Not only do you have to live at the same standard after divorcing and setting up two households, but certain expenses that you won't think about will begin to surface: two house payments, new furniture on the second home, additional children's expenses (you'll want to double up on things so your son and daughter have belongings at both homes), etc.
The reality is you'll likely be keeping one-third of your gross income, paying one-third toward taxes, and paying just under one-third in some form of child or spousal support. There are several opportunities to deviate from this generalized formula, but you'll need specific documents and an aggressive lawyer on your side.
Co-Parenting Strategies for Dads
In order to have an active relationship with your children, start off on the right foot. Call ahead if you want additional time or unscheduled visits. Don't keep the children out too late, and don't bring them home too early without clearing it with the other parent. The most important thing that you can do with your children now is let them know that they can rely on you.
Courtroom Strategies for Divorcing Men
When addressing the court, always, always say "our" children, not "my children." If you are on the stand getting attacked by your spouse's attorney, use a long pause to give you extra time to answer. Being antagonistic or giving sarcastic answers won't work, and the judge will see your behavior as your way of dodging difficult questions.
Divorce court always involves multiple issues, and you must keep alert when your judge gets your point so that you can go on to another topic. Some judges get annoyed with long-winded answers or attorneys who badger witnesses on the same points, so make your point and go on to another topic.
Experienced and Aggressive Attorneys for Men and Father's Rights
Our Western Massachusetts Attorneys address over 100 strategies and tactics with men who need strategic plans and winning tactics to win custody of their children. For a free, no-obligation consultation, call (800) 941-DIVORCE or contact us to setup an appointment.
